Our Eureka Moments

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Most of my writings are about recent learnings and how I learn to perform.  But at times I also venture into uncharted territory, exploring new concepts, ideas, and topics like the geopolitical significance of the Ukraine war, or the U.S. economy.  Doing so is refreshing and gets my brain firing in different ways.  At the same time, I run the risk of misunderstanding something, so I have to try harder to make sense of the subject, which in itself is gratifying.  It also builds the mental muscles to keep exploring new areas and keep learning and modifying my understanding, hoping this practice will help me in all aspects of my life. 

In this essay, I describe my most recent bridge tournament and the softer side of a tough game, after playing it for almost 10 years.

Last month, I was immersed in a six-day championship match in Reno — the bridge world’s most anticipated and prestigious annual event.  After extensive preparation with Morten, my coach, my team won the silver. 

Our team was the underdog by far, seeded 30 in a very strong field of national and international players.  We felt like a small-town college team going to the Final Four.  It was nine rigorous days of play and preparation, and then some.  After the tournament was over, my brain was overloaded, not only with thoughts of what part of preparation worked, how I could take my game to another level, and the intense focus required during the play, but also with emotions.  I needed to chill out.  Morten and I decided to take a few weeks off after the tournament, to draw some useful practical conclusions from my own and my team’s stellar performance.

Bridge consists of techniques, rules and agreements you make with your partner.  Based on these you make announcements at the table on your turn, indicating what cards you hold so that you and your partner can assess how many tricks you can win without seeing each other’s cards.  The agreements can run 100 pages long.  But the actual play is altogether a different experience like when Tiger Woods swings a golf club.  In that moment, knowing what you know does not always help.  In some magical way, everything either comes together or it doesn’t.   

As the bridge play progresses both sides try to figure out the lay of the land and the side which does a better job, has a better chance of winning.  The landscape keeps changing as each card gets played.  The earlier announcements made by players also hold clues.  In real-time, this can be disorienting and necessitates taking a fresh breath like during swimming, and then figuring out how to get re-synchronized to proceed.  Good players do this with greater ease.

Most of my small Eureka moments were private:

– During the tournament, I asked my opponent, a famous Italian player, a question he had supposedly answered a few minutes back.  To my surprise, he not only repeated the answer but also explained its implications which helped me win that hand.  A tiny bit more awareness of what I did not understand before, helped me.

– I found the courage to do things my way.  Students are expected to follow the lead of their teacher.  This time I ventured out a bit.

– The mind needs to be free. While playing almost 200 hands during the tournament, I realized how my mind flowed from one problem solution to the next.  Every single hand gave me plenty to think about.  My thoughts were twisting and turning and changing course on the fly. 

Since anecdotal evidence is not indicative of trends, and correlation is not the same as causation, the moments of learning require deeper scrutiny.

Learning bridge is a complex endeavor but I am good at breaking down complex problems into small digestible bytes which I can tweak.  Over the past 10 years while playing bridge I have gained a wealth of insights through this process.

What makes me a good player is the hard work, but also the humility with which I approach the game, and my life in general.

I look up to athletes for inspiration and tips.  They are the real practitioners of their game.  When Eliud Kipchoge, the Kenyan runner who keeps breaking marathon records, was asked why he refuses to bask in the glow of his achievements, he simply said,  “I’m a believer that if you climb to one branch, then you reach for the next branch.” 

When Tiger Woods was reminded that he had won 14 majors by the time he was 32, he responded, “I know. It’s frightening.  I’ve had a good run.”   

What I admire about these men is that they were not gloating about having outperformed everyone else.  Their humility reflected what they were telling themselves.

Humility comes from knowing that there are things we don’t know.  

Humility makes one resilient.  Resiliency leads to greater agility and perhaps that is the most important thing one can do when performing or competing. 

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  1. Hemant Lall

    Humility is one of many traits that exemplifies Vinita. Winning silver, in what is one of the toughest bridge events in the world, is no mean achievement. Many of the greatest players have not achieved this kind of success in their lifetime. Vinita, you are jack of all trades and master of MANY … well done!


  2. Peg Kaplan

    I have had the excellent good fortune to get to know Vinita. Vinita had a wealth of abilities, knowledge, determination – etc., etc. Being able to achieve the level that she has with all that she does is remarkable. Plus – as you can see – she is serious about her game, listens, and so often ultimatel "does the right thing" due to her diligence and high intelligence. Vinita – applause for your silver in a very tough field – and for achieving so much at a game that is forever challenging!

    I continue to find your thoughtfulness and determination to be most impressive – along with your other fine talents. Thank you so much!

  3. Ashok Ahuja

    Vinita, congratulations to Morten, your partner and you.

  4. Naren Bakshi

    Vinita ji: I am right now in my home town pink city Jaipur. Read your blog. It reminded me of my own Eureka moments 11 years ago when I was able to climb Mission Peak, Fremont a feat that I thought was impossible in this life time as until 2010, you might remember I was in bad health! But, by determination, help from best coaches, lots of learnings from top doctors; I was able to not only loose 90 pounds of weight but all of my diseases including Diabetes, Sleep Apnea, Hytech Hernia and many more are all cured and I am living great life at age 78!! This has also allowed me to find new purpose of life; lead the Health & Wellness Movement with CWC Global with strategic partnership for the Bay Area with the ICC where I still serve as a Founding Trustee. . Thanks a lot for your well written posts that are inspiring me and others with you as a role model of resilience, leadership. Still remember one of my role models Naren Gupta ji!

  5. Ramesh Yadava

    Dear Vinita, Thank you for this wonderful thought provoking article. You have rightly described humility.
    Humility is such a tool if used will put your feet firmly on the ground and no power can uproot them.

    Thank you
    Ramesh Yadava

  6. Abhishek Sharma

    Loved this :
    " Humility comes from knowing that there are things we don’t know.

    Humility makes one resilient. Resiliency leads to greater agility and perhaps that is the most important thing one can do when performing or competing. "

  7. Matt Granovetter

    Good description for non-bridge players. I find the best players are humble AFTER the game. But as my sports coach says, you need a method of over-confidence BEFORE the game — especially while playing — to compete at your highest level.

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